Alpha Males get the girls, not always bad guys or jerks.

So after the UFC on Saturday I headed out to the clubs and bars in downtown Fullerton. I wasn't sure what expect, but I've realized my game can click on and off sometimes. I have a tradition of asking all bouncers and employees of clubs and bars if I can buy them a drink. They always light up when you ask them that, and they are usually very grateful too. I also know they will say no, but it makes me stand out a little.... to them anyway. I'm also not a big drinker, so I got long beach and right away started talking to 2 girls with my friend. I do quick interaction, because it helps me pump my state and get into rhythm. After a 30 minute warm up with the girls I headed to the dance floor. I saw a cute girl sitting down and started my alpha male stuff. I stuck my hand out in a "let's go dance gesture" and didn't say a word. She grabbed my hand and we danced, later she would hunt me out and we would have a small makeout session.
A girl named Mary showed up a little later, and she was talking with 3 guys at one time. As soon as we locked eyes as I was walking by, I grabbed her by the hand and twirled her around. She went with it, she asked me my name, and turned her back to the other guys. We talked a little and then I left. Never forget that you don't have to stay with a girl at all times to get her, sometimes by leaving you show that you are not needy. I went to the actual bar area for one more drink. The first girl that saw me and I danced with walked by, I grabbed her hand and kissed her, but didn't ask for the phone number. She wanted me too, but I could only think about Mary. 30 minutes late I see her outside talking to her gay friend, and I decided to go in for the kill. I started making friends with him, it is always important to win friends over, and talked to both of them at the same time. 10 minutes later, I looked right in Mary's eyes and did one of my personally made, and favorite lines. "I want to take you on a date." I said. She asked,"Really?" I said, "Yes." She said, "Really?" I said, "YES", without the slightest change in my face. I grabbed her by the hand, and she squeezed back (which is essential) and took her to the dance floor. We danced quick number exchange, and then started kissing. I'm talking full on make out, spit and all with everyone around us looking on thinking we were sick, but really they all just wanted to do the same. Then I grabbed her by the throat and push her against the wall .... made out more and more..... and more. She got up turned around and grinding on me for a little. Then told me to sit down, similar to a stripper taking a guy for a lap dance, or a girl taking a guy by the hand for the "I'm going to fuck this guy style". (if you ever get this type of hand holding, it is on and don't say anything). I sat down, she jumped on me, and like a bull started riding me. She would even bit me once or twice on the shoulder.... this was new to me. She pressed her boobs in my face, and everyone was just looking at us, but i didn't even care to notice. It was like only me and her were there, we didn't even see anyone around. The lights turned on and it was time to go. I grabbed her hand in the alpha male style and led and her gay friend out, the gay guy in one arm and her in the other. She told me leaned from behind and whispered in my ear,"I like you". I didn't even look over my shoulder, but responded with, "I know..... I've got fang marks to prove it." She confirmed her number with me, and insisted we met again. One last good bye kiss slash dry hump, and I walked on air back to my car.
The game as surely changed in my life, and I found out she was bi and I'm feeling like running with that. I stopped believe in planning things out, and start going with the flow. I will enter social interaction with her with complete open mind.

Sleepless in Placentia,

Is Change a Good Thing?

I've heard that people say that change is good, but I'm starting to think otherwise. I do believe in situations like marriage and long relationships a little compromise is ok, but how much is too much? I starting to learn that people fall in love all the time, and some people have undermining thoughts of what they are going to do with the other person. Like when one person thinks when they get with someone that they are going to CHANGE them. Before I got into a relationship, I was doing jiu jitsu, muy thai, hanging with the buddies on a weekly basis. So, this was the man my ex fell in love with. Toward the end the relationship, she started to ask for more and more time with me. So I slowly started to go to jiu jitsu less, I stopped taking muy thia, and going out with my best buds (my dad and bro) became much less often. Soon, I had to let her go. I do believe I was treated unfairly by her, and I do believe there is a points or behaviors that everyone needs to decide is acceptable. So I had to dump her, and that's some what ok. I do blame a little bit on myself though, and hear me out. Why you ask? It is because I choose to change my situation so much to suit hers, that I was no longer the man I once was. I was no longer the man she fell in love with. Where are you in this scope? Are you changing so much for other people that you've forgot what is most important to you? I've been trying jiu jitsu a lot now, hanging with the dad and bro again, and I can do what ever I want to do everyday or any day. I know what I want to be as a person and some what where I want to go, and what I've realized is that being that so focused in goals can be extremely attractive. Which is true when I started the relationships. I've truly realized that I don't necessarily NEED some girl to feel or be complete. I can have a wonderful conversation with any women inside the CVS store, or the local mall. Both guys and girls will do try to control their mates. As long as they get what they want from their mates, believe it or not; can sometimes cause someone lose a little respect for their mate. When someone continually conforms too much, it can be unattractive, after all; it was the unavailability that made someone desirable in the first place. What does this mean? Keep being you, and don't conform too much. Be who you want and enjoy it, don't change too much for someone, because to much change is you not being you. We'll get into the controlling emotions more next time.