Is Change a Good Thing?

I've heard that people say that change is good, but I'm starting to think otherwise. I do believe in situations like marriage and long relationships a little compromise is ok, but how much is too much? I starting to learn that people fall in love all the time, and some people have undermining thoughts of what they are going to do with the other person. Like when one person thinks when they get with someone that they are going to CHANGE them. Before I got into a relationship, I was doing jiu jitsu, muy thai, hanging with the buddies on a weekly basis. So, this was the man my ex fell in love with. Toward the end the relationship, she started to ask for more and more time with me. So I slowly started to go to jiu jitsu less, I stopped taking muy thia, and going out with my best buds (my dad and bro) became much less often. Soon, I had to let her go. I do believe I was treated unfairly by her, and I do believe there is a points or behaviors that everyone needs to decide is acceptable. So I had to dump her, and that's some what ok. I do blame a little bit on myself though, and hear me out. Why you ask? It is because I choose to change my situation so much to suit hers, that I was no longer the man I once was. I was no longer the man she fell in love with. Where are you in this scope? Are you changing so much for other people that you've forgot what is most important to you? I've been trying jiu jitsu a lot now, hanging with the dad and bro again, and I can do what ever I want to do everyday or any day. I know what I want to be as a person and some what where I want to go, and what I've realized is that being that so focused in goals can be extremely attractive. Which is true when I started the relationships. I've truly realized that I don't necessarily NEED some girl to feel or be complete. I can have a wonderful conversation with any women inside the CVS store, or the local mall. Both guys and girls will do try to control their mates. As long as they get what they want from their mates, believe it or not; can sometimes cause someone lose a little respect for their mate. When someone continually conforms too much, it can be unattractive, after all; it was the unavailability that made someone desirable in the first place. What does this mean? Keep being you, and don't conform too much. Be who you want and enjoy it, don't change too much for someone, because to much change is you not being you. We'll get into the controlling emotions more next time.